This case study explores the marital struggles faced by a working couple and the issues arising from conflicts in ego.

Prakash, the husband, exhibits several qualities that contribute to the difficulties in their relationship:

  • Lack of Respect for Human Dignity: Prakash displayed disrespect by slapping a subordinate, indicating a lack of politeness and humility towards his colleagues.
  • Lack of Conscientiousness: Prakash’s personal issues are affecting his professional life, demonstrating a lack of conscientiousness towards maintaining a work-life balance.
  • Poor Co-worker Skills: Prakash fails to show care, respect, and appreciation for his wife Meena’s achievements, indicating a lack of social skills in the workplace.
  • Lack of Emotional Intelligence: Prakash struggles to manage his anger and frustration, particularly in dealing with his jealousy towards Meena’s success.
  • Display of Patriarchal Values: Prakash exhibits patriarchal tendencies, evident in his discomfort with reporting to his wife or accepting her success.
  • Failure as a Husband: Prakash lacks respect for Meena’s aspirations and efforts to improve their marriage by leaving her previous job.

Similarly, Meena also possesses certain shortcomings that contribute to their troubled relationship:

  • Lack of Communication: Meena’s failure to communicate with Prakash has led to significant conflicts and clashes of ego.
  • Inadequate Effort in Marital Bonds: Meena hasn’t invested enough effort in strengthening their relationship.
  • Failure to Consider Work-Personal Life Balance: Meena didn’t foresee the challenges of being co-workers with her husband, leading to difficulties in balancing personal and professional aspects.
  • Poor Work-Life Balance: Meena, like Prakash, allowed her professional life to impact her personal time, resulting in insufficient quality time together.

As a mutual friend of Meena and Prakash, I would offer the following advice to help them overcome their marital issues:

  • Take a Break: Both should temporarily step back from their professional commitments and dedicate time to discuss their concerns, possibly through a vacation or road-trip.
  • Effective Communication: Emphasize the importance of open and honest communication to resolve conflicts. They should establish dedicated, interruption-free time each day for meaningful conversations.
  • Set Ego Aside: Both partners should prioritize their marriage over ego and consider starting afresh in new jobs if necessary.
  • Seek Professional Help: Consulting a psychologist or professional consultant can aid in addressing both their personal and professional challenges.
  • Appreciate Each Other: Making a list of each other’s best qualities will help them appreciate and value their partner.
  • Apologize Sincerely: Prakash should apologize genuinely and take moral responsibility to repair the marriage.

To avoid such distressing situations in the future, they can develop the following qualities:

  • Efficiently Manage Work and Personal Life: Adopt effective time management strategies, such as taking regular leaves and utilizing flexible working options like work-from-home.
  • Improve Self-Awareness: Engage in honest self-reflection to understand their actions’ impact on their personal life.
  • Spend Quality Time Together: Prioritize spending quality time together to strengthen their marital bonds and appreciate each other’s efforts and achievements.
  • Foster Open Communication: Encourage open discussions about life, interests, dreams, and feelings to address issues promptly.
  • Support Each Other’s Goals: Encourage and support each other’s dreams and hobbies to nurture a supportive relationship.
  • Engage in Selfless Acts: Involvement in philanthropic or social causes can enhance empathy and provide a broader perspective on life.


A happy married life requires effort, especially for partners experiencing significant work stress. Divorce should be the last resort, with every effort made to preserve and nurture the relationship.

Legacy Editor Changed status to publish February 17, 2024